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April 20, 2010 --A NEW PLYMOUTH cleaner has been sentenced to six months' in jail for his seventh drink driving conviction.
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Wireless News - Avalere and The SCAN Foundation Partner to Develop Long-Term Care
April 19, 2010 -- Avalere Health, in partnership with The SCAN Foundation, announced it has released a web-based modeling tool that enables policymakers and... more
Express & Echo; Exeter (UK) - Change of scene for care fees planning expert
April 15, 2010 --EXETER-BASED long-term care adviser Ray Hanratty has joined the Wealth Care Partnership's expanding team of care fees planning experts.
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March 13, 2010 -- The mother and stepfather of seven-year-old starvation victim Khyra Ishaq, left, have been jailed for manslaughter. Angela Gordon was locked up... moreEvening Times; Glasgow (UK) - Couple jailed after girl, 7, starved to death
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Open Question: Can someone help me out with this question?
I know this seems weird of me to type all of this out,but I'm going to!.Please don't judge me,I don't really care what you think of me =/. 1.The California Gold Rush of 1848 began at John Sutter's sawmill in the Sacramento Valley.Sutter was a shopkeeper from Switzerland.He had come to California ten years before,hoping to find a new life.He probably never dreamed that gold would be found on his land. 2. One day on of Mr.Sutter's partners,John Marshall,found a shiny nugget in a ditch near the sawmill.Marshall shattering it and tarnishing it.He put it in lye to see if it would melt or crack.It did none of these things.Marshall was very excited and rode all one night to show the nugget to Sutter.Sutter was skeptical at first.He couldn't believe that there might be gold on his land.He poured nitric acid on the metal to see if it would be eaten away.But it was not. 3.When news of the discovery broke,Califronia was changed forever.Sutter and Marshall could no longer operate the sawmill.Theri workers abandoned their jobs to search for gold.People from all over the country of California.Even people from Europe and China arrived to look for gold. 4.New trails were opened to the West.No one seemed to mind the ahrdships or pioneer living as long as they found gold.In 1848 the population of California grew from 20,000 to 107,000 people.San Francisco Sacramento were transfromed from sleepy towns into booming cities.Others were not so lucky remained in the area and became farmers or Fathers.The Gold Rush lasted from 1848 until 1852.During that time the population continued to grow,and in 1850 California became a state.Unfortuantely,the Gold Rush was not very good for Sutter and Marshall so many people were living on the land around the sawmill that Sutter was forced to give up his clain to the land.Marshall tried searching for gold but never had much luck after that first fine. I typed this in like 5 mins but that's not part of anything.Please help me with this few questions? 1.Which of the following events happened first? F.the population of California grew. G Marshall discovered gold near the sawmill. H. New trails were opened to the West. J.California became a state 2.What are paragraphs 3 and 4 mainly about? F how Califronia became a state G thow the Gold Rush affected California H how people lived in California during the Gold Rush J how gold was discovered in California 3.The author included the first paragraph in order to- A introduce an important character B describe the setting C describe the mood. D explain the term "Gold Rush" 4.Why did the author write this selection? (there's no multiple choice I gotta write it but I don't know what) Guys,please help me,i'm not kidding.No hater comments because I just need help with this,and I don't want anybody calling me a nerd,cheater,whatever.Just some help..Please?thank you :) moreResolved Question: confused on what to do with my relationship - desperate for advice :(?
I dont know where to start...but i feel i am in an ongoing dilema for 2 yrs now and its been eating me up. When I went to university I met a guy whom i truly loved adored and who made me the happiest woman alive. He was my first love and i was crazy about him, we stayed together for 3 yrs. After our first year together he had to move unis and we had a long distance relationship, which was frustrating and high maintenance but we made it last for an extra 2 yrs. However, things started to become difficult and our love faded away with time and distance i only saw him once every few months and it really hurt at the time to feel not loved and wanted and effort being made from me only. we were serious and were close to getting married.we had several obstacles before i.e,. culture difference but we overcame that and it had only made us stronger through the years. however, towards the end of the my last year when i was not seeing him much and i just felt like the thing on the side...i started to like someone else whom i saw everyday and gave me whatever i was starting to miss in my current relationship. He cared for me more than a mother to her child, he treated me like the only women on earth and loved me like there is no tomorrow...he was my shadoww 24/7 that his nickname became magnet. at this point i was living in an emotional torture because i am becoming attached to this angel from heaven and yet wanted to remain faithful to my 3 year relationship with my current guy and try to swallow this hiccup like all the others..but i could not do it anymore and ended braking up with my first. I started seeing magnet and we lived together for a year, the guy was like an angel sent from heaven i could never ever in my entire life ask for any different. I never knew if i loved him or i was with him because he filled gap, because i needed him, because he forced himself into my life? is it a rebound? but it was definetly something to make me walk away from my first love that i adored to death after 3 yrs..its not in me to do that. unfortunatly i was not faithful to magnet, i cheated once and i kept in touch with my ex for the next 2 yrs we were together. This had damaged our relationship severly and he lost all his trust in me and he suffered himself with falling behind with his education, going into drugs alcohol and just lose his self esteem and confidence. I was too blind to it at the time, the emotional nightmare that i was living in had taken over me, he was not to realise that as he is not in my shoes. i was his first love. he moved away for about 9 months...we started to fade and the same pattern starts again. I am still in contact with both of them now..not as partners but as close people. my first is still trying to get back with me, and i do not want to do that for two reasons, 1 i do not know if i love him anymore too much had happened 2, because i have been unfaithful enough to magnet and would never be able to forgive myself. however he is my perfect guy and would make me happy in the long term - i might learn to love him again and mybe for the sake of what we had i should? on the other hand, magnet is back and i have met up with him a few time. he is cold with me and arround me, his barrier are up because i made him weak at once and i understand that. However he tries to deny that there is a problem and keeps on saying one day you will understand whats in my heart for you. I feel that i want him more than ever just for the fact that i owe it to him, its enough i give him back the love and care he once gave me, i feel guilty on a daily basis and it eats me up. ..but saying that my heart tells me that i had gone to far and its far too damaged i am just living a lie to make myself feel better and stop feeling guilty. ..he is unresponsive and is leaving the ball in my court by the looks of it. i am too scared to speak to him and hear what he has to say. i am really insecure and i do not know what i want, cannot make a decision and this is affecting the lives of two other people as well. its not fair and i am not enjoying it..i really need help. do i go back to my first start fresh and gain stability, because i messed up with magnet and never left my ex so it must mean something. or do i just do one thing right for once and do right by the man that picked me at my lowest points and give him what he deserves, someone that loved me once and not expected nothing in return must be the one that i will live happy with for the rest of my life? whoever, if anyone really takes the time to read this and actually give me some sort of advice...it will really mean something to me and i will appreciate it more than you expect. thanks and wish u happiness in life :) moreResolved Question: How do you end a long term relationship where you have Depression and your partner cares for you?
I have Depression and Dependent Personality Disorder and have been feeling genuinely unfulfilled in my 7 year relationship even though my partner is my main carer. I feel that my partner has become a parental figure and in now way do I hate him or despise anything about him. I am not unhappy with him but with my own dependence on his care. I feel like I need to move out of our home (which we jointly own) and be independent. by the way I just found out that my partner was raped when he was 9 by a 40 y/o man, so now what do I do? moreVoting Question: Boyfriend still on dating site?
We've been dating for 3 weeks now. He says he really likes me, that he is happy he can have me as his girlfriend and that being around me just makes him happy. I do feel like he cares for me, the fact that even though he is so busy, he still makes time for me and also, even though he doesn't have much money, he still tries to take me out. But...well, we met online, through a dating site. I've closed my account on there the day after we started dating and I've mentioned that to him before. Well, today, while I was at a girlfriend's place, she showed me her profile on the same site, and a few cute guys that she finds attractive, just when we were browsing through the profiles, I was in shock to find him still on the site, worst thing was, he just logged on earlier today! (so it seems like he is still active on there....) It looks like he has NOT updated his profile ever since we met on there nor uploaded any new pictures, but it still says that he is "SINGLE" on there (there is actually an option of "currently seeing someone" that you can chose) and that he is looking for long term relationship, short term relationship, new friends, activity partners. Should I bring it up to him or should I just wait for a while longer say another few weeks/months and then bring it up if he happens to still be on there. He once said he thinks that if two individuals are dating, then meeting others online or having phone sex is considered cheating....so then....why is he still on there? moreResolved Question: White House e-mail scam??????
one month ago I send an e-mail to the White House about Federal jobs age limitation today the President answer me back is this email just another scam??? Dear Friend: Thank you for writing me. I have heard from many Americans who are losing their jobs and struggling to pay their bills. Every day, I meet with my economic advisors to make sure we are doing all we can to create good jobs and help Americans support their families and pursue the American Dream. The American Recovery and Reinvestment Act (ARRA) was the first step to spur job growth and ease the pain of unemployment. This measure was designed to save or create millions of jobs here at home in industries such as alternative energy, health care, and construction. By extending and increasing emergency unemployment compensation and increasing access to health insurance, ARRA has provided relief to millions of unemployed Americans and has helped improve our Nation's economic outlook. Many Americans, however, are still struggling to find employment and provide for their families, and I am working to promote additional job creation. To assist workers who lose their jobs, I signed into law the Worker, Homeownership, and Business Assistance Act in November, extending unemployment benefits beyond what exists in ARRA. I also signed into law an extension of COBRA benefits and partner with Congress to ensure that a safety net remains in place for those who face long-term unemployment. My Administration is also helping Americans return to work by emphasizing job training in industries that cannot be outsourced. Recently laid-off workers receiving unemployment benefits have new opportunities to pursue higher education and job training programs, including easier access to Pell Grants. To encourage job creation in the United States, I am replacing tax laws that send jobs overseas with new incentives to create them here at home. Available assistance can be found online at: www.dol.gov/recovery/implement.htm or www.opportunity.gov. Together, we can help more Americans find and keep good jobs and enjoy a healthy standard of living. To locate an employment center near you, select your state at: www.dol.gov/dol/location.htm. For information on benefits and opportunities for those out of work, I encourage you to visit: www.dol.gov/dol/audience/aud- unemployed.htm. To find career resources, you may call 1-877-872- 5627 or visit: www.careeronestop.org. While it will take time to turn our economy around, I am confident that, working together, we will emerge from this crisis stronger than before. Sincerely, Barack Obama moreResolved Question: Is casual sex, friends with benefits, or NSA unhealthy for your mind?
I had always had this fantasy when I was kind of a geek in high school of one day becoming this Lothario-type person where I could sleep with girls and satisfy them sexually. I wanted to be this kind of "Greek God" who would please them beyond all measure and they would fall head over heels for me because of how sexually gratifying their experience with me was. Well, it partially came true... I've been able to get sexual release from women (still not the BABES I dreamed of, but some are) and each relationship I've been in has been less about substance and more about sex/making out. This last relationship I was in...the girl was really into sex and I seemed to be pleasing her very adequately and she would constantly call me over for an overnight "booty call," I guess it's referred as. Well, either I believed or I fooled myself into thinking that this girl wanted anything from me other than sex. To be fair, she was a bit neurotic in general, but the point is that one day after we had a normal, non 'booty-call' date at the movies (we saw Greenberg with Ben Stiller - if it matters) I definitely felt like we were a couple. She would hint at the fact that we were a "real" couple like when we chatted on text she would say things like, "it's becoming more and more clear that you're my man...are you my man....you're my man, right?" and I would go along with the whole thing, still realizing she was probably just feeling me out and not really serious. Cutting to the point, one day I asked her if she wanted to spend the weekend together (some weekends we'd stay up in her apt and just chill for the entire weekend) and she basically said something along the lines of "...NSA remember, no strings attached, I don't wanna see you this weekend, ur poor, u have no motivation, u live at home, i dont like the way you talk and the way you think." So basically I was shocked. How could this girl who I slept next to for so many nights and we held each other to sleep say these things about me? I had thought we were "making love" but to her it must have been just using my body for her gratification. The funny thing is, that was my original high school dream. It had come true...be careful what you wish for they say. I allowed myself to become "her" sex object, her toy. To all of a sudden bitch me out like that after I had begun to develop feelings for her has left me very depressed and hesitant to start a new relationship. Do I not have sex in order to avoid getting hurt? Was Jesus right, is premarital sex terrible for the soul? I mean...after having maybe 8 or so sexual partners (estimate) and dating girls - I realize it's never ended good. It's like a bond two people have when they have sex that kind of you remember when the relationship is all said and done. People say, "No strings attached," but isn't sex kind of like a permanent string you share with someone. Even if it's a one-night stand and the girl regrets it...perhaps to you it mattered. And since when are girls so "cool" with casual sex and playing with guys' emotions? Why cut a guy off at the knees...at least show some respect to the guy you banged like 30 times. Why cut him off like road kill? I just don't get it. So, what do I do? Do I avoid sex until I'm in a "healthy, committed, long-term" relationship? Are most girls okay with fu**ing a guy and just not caring about it the next day like he's a piece of garbage? Have they really lost so much respect for their bodies where sleeping with them means nothing (wasn't that just guys a while back?) Are girls now sluttier than guys? How will I ever know if the girl I'm with just wants me to bang her out or if she wants a meaningful relationship that is either boyfriend/girlfriend or at least respectful. I can't have a girl do this to me again or I might just totally give up on love AND sex!!! Opinions?? Xo - you're like a genius...if only the girls I dated were half as insightful as you seem to be. moreResolved Question: Why are girls so damn confusing!?
So I have this girl in one of my classes that there's just something about that I've been into for a while. To try to sum up a long story, it started roughly 4 months ago. She started coming onto me very aggressively out of literally no where, but I had a long term girlfriend at the time and as into her as I was, I loved my significant other and I don't cheat. These feelings had me not turning her down, but also not going along with her attempts to flirt. Roughly two months my ex and I ended up ending it because things weren't working (and she cheated on me, the irony). However this girl started dating her ex almost simultaneously to my break up which caused the roles to switch. She acted like I did and I acted like she had for the next month or so. She then ended up breaking up with her ex and we both started flirting a lot and were making plans to hang out when another guy in the class tried to pursue her as well. At first it wasn't an issue at all, he'd go for her, try to be her partner in whatever activity, but she'd just come over to me instead. It was this way until one day she just up and started flirting with him instead. They were partners in an activity we were supposed to be in which angered me a bit but I just went to one of my friends like it was no big deal and caught her looking at me a lot. It came to my attention that she was probably waiting for me to go chase after her but those kind of games annoy me so I just didn't bother. In my opinion if things are going good, why were the games needed so late into everything? This resulted in us just not talking, I'd occasionally try to spark a convo or two but she usually wouldn't let them last, nor would make any attempt to talk to me like she had. Then today my friend (who is also good friends with her) had sat next to her at lunch and I some how came into the topic. He said she told him that she didn't see me in that way when he said "you two would be cute together" but when he also implied that we should go to prom, she responded that she's stuck going with her ex because he paid for everything, not necessarily a no. Now at this point I didn't really care because we didn't talk at all anyways (many more fish in the sea) until it came the class period we had together. She began talking to me as soon as I walked into the room which was very unusual, and was very flirty and touchy throughout the rest of the period. What the hell is this girl's game? Is she just a tease and wants attention or did I blow it in the past and her interest was spiked again from the convo with my friend? I'm terrible at reading girls but I don't want to deal with someone who is just going to play games or seek attention and I can't tell what she wants, or if she's genuinely interested in me. Thanks in advance!! moreResolved Question: What is more important (rate in order of importance)?
Just a little survey for my sociology class. Please rate in order of importance. age: sex: country: 1. first thing you notice about a person? a)body part (state which) b)hair c)eyes d)mouth e)face 2. What attracts you to someone? a)body part (state which) b)facial feature (state which) c)personality factor (state which) d)things in common (state which) c)behavior factor (state which) 3. qualities in friend? (both words are not necessarily synonymous) a) trustworthy/loyal b) smart/cultured c)outgoing/active d)caring/compassionate e)wealthy/famous f)voluble/communicative g)confident/assertive h)independent/original i)responsible/dependable j)happy/positive 4. relation with family members? (if relation with said person doesn't exist leave it at the end and specify) a)mother b)father c)older sibling d) younger sibling e)grandparent f)uncle/aunt g)cousin h)distant family member i)spouse/partner j)child (yours) k)niece/nephew l)other 5. When looking for a long term relationship, what matters more? a)communication b)trust c)passion d)physical appearance e)satisfying sexual intercourse f)stability g)thoughtfulness h)comfort i)safety j)reciprocity of feelings thanks! moreResolved Question: Would you men rather be with a princess or a queen?
i'm dating these two girls right now and both of them have potential to turn in to something long term. I was recently discussing long term life plans with girl #1, where we want to live, the kinds of vacations we want to take together, our favorite TV shows, whether she's going to go back to school or not (we didn't discuss children), etc. I'm kind of her sugar daddy and she was like, "would you treat me like a princess for the rest of my life and pamper me and spoil me? You know I would always take care of you (you know what she's talking about)." This made me decide to have a similar discussion with girl #2, even though I'm not as close to her yet (she totally wants me though). She's also a little older (26) than girl #1 and a little hotter. After discussing many of the same things, I asked her if she would want me to treat her like a princess the rest of her life. She was like, "no way. That's fine in the beginning, but people grow up and responsibilties get divided between the partners. You would handle your stuff and I would handle mine. I would want you to treat me like a queen to your king, and rule over our family (this is the first time the idea of kids was even implied) benevolently and with mutual admiration and affection." This left me kind of thinking, "wtf?" But she is more mature, hotter, and more established. I doubt she's as wild though (you know what I'm talking about--haven't gotten there yet). So, which is better? And you have to choose one or the other. Both would be ideal, but that's not the world we live in, son. moreVoting Question: Best Friend, Love, Broken Ankle?
My best friend, a fella, recently started a facebook account. One of HIS best friends saw me on that account and "friended" me. We are both professional adults and single parents, so we talked, got along well, and eventually met in person and started dating. We get along fantastically and it looks like this will work out to be something long term. Unfortunately, my best friend and I had dated a long time ago, and at the time determined that since I have kids and he does not, it would not work out. Even recently when I asked him if he would mind if I dated his friend, he indicated that he had no problem with it. However lately he has been acting like he has some further feelings for me, which leads to the current conflict. Both my new partner and I really love this friend and care about his feelings. However we dont' want to give each other up at any cost. This friend has started acting peculiarly around my partner, and has taken to outright ignoring me. He went out and got drunk, completely wasted such as neither my partner nor myself have ever seen him- and called us both ranting but incoherently. It was clear he was very upset at us. He sprained his ankle during this little session of his, and I am unable to contact him since he will no longer answer my calls. I am worried to death for him because despite his current immature behavior, I love him deeply as my best friend and I want to go wrap up his foot, and I do NOT want to lose his friendship. I'm just not sure how to handle all this. Any suggestions? moreVoting Question: New Love, Best Friend Feels Bad?
My best friend, a fella, recently started a facebook account. One of HIS best friends saw me on that account and "friended" me. We are both professional adults and single parents, so we talked, got along well, and eventually met in person and started dating. We get along fantastically and it looks like this will work out to be something long term. Unfortunately, my best friend and I had dated a long time ago, and at the time determined that since I have kids and he does not, it would not work out. Even recently when I asked him if he would mind if I dated his friend, he indicated that he had no problem with it. However lately he has been acting like he has some further feelings for me, which leads to the current conflict. Both my new partner and I really love this friend and care about his feelings. However we dont' want to give each other up at any cost. This friend has started acting peculiarly around my partner, and has taken to outright ignoring me. He went out and got drunk, completely wasted such as neither my partner nor myself have ever seen him- and called us both ranting but incoherently. It was clear he was very upset at us. He sprained his ankle during this little session of his, and I am unable to contact him since he will no longer answer my calls. I am worried to death for him because despite his current immature behavior, I love him deeply as my best friend and I want to go wrap up his foot, and I do NOT want to lose his friendship. I'm just not sure how to handle all this. Any suggestions? Tanya, what valuable advice! Can you add on and let me know if you think I should actively seek him out to help him with his ankle, or shall I just leave him be? Thanks! And I hope I get even more input from others! moreVoting Question: why would he do this?
My boyfriend was out on a night out with me and he told me he doesn't need to look after his little sister and other people anymore because they have friends now and such. But he would look after me. He was tipsy but during a phone convo he said he couldn't remember saying it and doesn't know what I was on about. I am now worried he doesn't wanna take care of me and that I'm not that special to him. This is my long term partner. moreResolved Question: why do people get married?
Women gain weight in the relationship because of child birth, but a recent study from the University of Queensland in Australia confirms that even women that don’t have a kid end up gaining a substantial amount of weight in wedded bliss. According to the findings, a woman will gain up to 15 pounds if she had a partner but no baby in the first 10 years of marriage. She might look good now, but add at least 10 pounds to her frame after the wedding ring slides on the finger. Another reason is the lack of variety, variety is the spice of life. Spice is also the name of the stripper dancing on your lap and slipping you her cell number if you don't make the suicidal move to marriage. Settling down with one woman eliminates the wide selection of women and the thrill of the chase. No more flings with a coworker, gym pickups, one-night stands, and no more hot crazy chicks. Hot crazy chicks make dating so much fun! Plus, watch what happens the minute you get hitched. Women in your life that you could have scored with start admitting a sexual interest but say: “Too bad you’re getting married." Facts and figures released each year prove that last year, Americans spent $71 billion dollars on weddings with each ceremony averaging $28,704. Most marital issues are rooted in problems with money (usually a lack of it), so it's probably not the best idea to kick-start a marriage choking on debt from a wedding cake and a band that ignored all the songs on your “don’t play” list. When is marriage the most expensive? When it ends in divorce. There is still sex -- occasionally. Those occasions are usually holidays, birthdays and every time she feels like you might be considering tipping your donkey in the community pond. It’s as bland as a sugar-free cookie. It’s always in the same location, boring position and ends the same way every time. Want to try something new? Not tonight. Not ever if we are being honest. Sure, some women will experiment, but it won’t be a long-term move added to the routine. Those early days of screwing longer than a cordless screwdriver are long over. It’s perfectly acceptable to be in a monogamous relationship with someone you love and care for, but why do you need a piece of paper from the state or church? moreResolved Question: why would you get married?
Women gain weight in the relationship because of child birth, but a recent study from the University of Queensland in Australia confirms that even women that don’t have a kid end up gaining a substantial amount of weight in wedded bliss. According to the findings, a woman will gain up to 15 pounds if she had a partner but no baby in the first 10 years of marriage. She might look good now, but add at least 10 pounds to her frame after the wedding ring slides on the finger. Women gain weight in the relationship because of child birth, but a recent study from the University of Queensland in Australia confirms that even women that don’t have a kid end up gaining a substantial amount of weight in wedded bliss. According to the findings, a woman will gain up to 15 pounds if she had a partner but no baby in the first 10 years of marriage. She might look good now, but add at least 10 pounds to her frame after the wedding ring slides on the finger. Another reason is the lack of variety, variety is the spice of life. Spice is also the name of the stripper dancing on your lap and slipping you her cell number if you don't make the suicidal move to marriage. Settling down with one woman eliminates the wide selection of women and the thrill of the chase. No more flings with a coworker, gym pickups, one-night stands, and no more hot crazy chicks. Hot crazy chicks make dating so much fun! Plus, watch what happens the minute you get hitched. Women in your life that you could have scored with start admitting a sexual interest but say: “Too bad you’re getting married." Facts and figures released each year prove that last year, Americans spent $71 billion dollars on weddings with each ceremony averaging $28,704. Most marital issues are rooted in problems with money (usually a lack of it), so it's probably not the best idea to kick-start a marriage choking on debt from a wedding cake and a band that ignored all the songs on your “don’t play” list. When is marriage the most expensive? When it ends in divorce. There is still sex -- occasionally. Those occasions are usually holidays, birthdays and every time she feels like you might be considering tipping your donkey in the community pond. It’s as bland as a sugar-free cookie. It’s always in the same location, boring position and ends the same way every time. Want to try something new? Not tonight. Not ever if we are being honest. Sure, some women will experiment, but it won’t be a long-term move added to the routine. Those early days of screwing longer than a cordless screwdriver are long over. It’s perfectly acceptable to be in a monogamous relationship with someone you love and care for, but why do you need a piece of paper from the state or church? I am not afraid of women, I just like sleeping with as many as I can, and I've slept with 91 women so far moreResolved Question: Do I break up with my boyfriend?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a two years. I’m 24, and he’s 32. We got together when I was 22, and he’s the only man I’ve ever slept with. I’ve never told him that, and he thinks I’ve had at least had a few partners before him. He’s been with many many women. He’s only had 2 other girlfriends, one of which he was with for 6 years and lived with, and I know for a fact that he slept with numerous women throughout his twenties and when he was in University. Now, he’s ready to settle down, and he seems to think I am the one for him. He introduced me to his family within the first month of us dating, he brought me to his best friends and his sister’s wedding within the first 3 months of us dating….and now he talks about our future together, long term – houses, children, etc. I do love being in a relationship with him, but I’ve only had one semi-serious relationship before him, and then was when I was 18/19. I’m kinda freaking out, because I don’t necessarily want to break up with him, but I’m not ready to settle down, and because I’m so inexperienced, it’s hard for me to tell whether he’s the one for me. Although I would never cheat on him, and I don’t have anyone in particular in mind, the idea of sleeping with other men, and having other relationships interests me, and I feel like I've missed out there. I don’t know what to do – do I break up with someone I’m happy with, so I can experiment a bit, and have other relationships? Or do I stay with him, - knowing that I will never get the chance to sleep with or date anyone else…? I care about him very much, but am so confused. Any advice is appreciated. Clouds55 moreVoting Question: Baby's father keeps leaving?
I am 6 months pregnant, 22, and feel like I am going out of my mind. My partner has been kind of supportive, but I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place, because it seems to me like he is not that committed sometimes. When we first found out about the pregnancy, it was a complete surprise. He had just moved out to LA to be with me, and we were not in a position to start a family. He is 34 and we have been dating about a year and eight months. Four days after we discovered that I was pregnant, he left for Chicago for two weeks out of nowhere, telling me it was because his mother was sick. But while in Chicago, he mostly drank with his friends. This was very difficult for me, because I was having extreme withdrawal from my long term anxiety medication that I had to stop cold turkey for the baby, as well as fluctuating hormones, and dealing with no sleep and morning sickness all alone. Right before he left, he had a long discussion with me about how he had no plans of marrying me just because he got me pregnant. He left me again for another week and a half two months later to take care of more things outside of LA. That time was not as hard, but there were some minor complications that arose while he was gone that I wished he was here for. Now he tells me that he is going to Vegas with the guys in a few weeks, to drink and go to clubs, leaving me at home alone again. He is also considering going to France during the later part of May, which is six weeks before I am due. I realize that I should give him some freedom, but I was nearly bed ridden with my morning sickness the first two times he left me. Now I am getting rather large and immobile. Not to mention I get worried when he up and leaves that he'll just up and leave after the baby is born, or not be here when she comes. Or just leave me for good and not be interested in raising the baby. When I try to tell him not to go, or try to bring up that it is hard for me to be alone in this state, he gets very defensive. Are these signs of a fleeing partner, should I be worried, or is it just more hormones? moreResolved Question: How important are looks in a serious relationship?
I recently started dating a man with a wonderful personality who makes me laugh and, while not without his share of quirks, seems to be a decent match for me. It seems the relationship is certainly heading towards the serious side and he maybe even marriage. The problem is, and I hate to say this....he's the least attractive man I've ever dated (physically). He's a great guy and he cares for me very much, but sometimes I find myself getting turned off by his looks, which I never thought I would be the type to do. He's definitely on the chubby side, his teeth are yellow and his oral hygiene questionable, sometimes he's a little smelly, has less-than-perfect skin, and honestly doesn't have very many good physical features at large. I feel absolutely horrible for putting my thoughts into words, but I want to know others' opinions: are looks in a long-term relationship very important? I'm not a really superficial person, but I am considered very attractive by most and I'm almost a little embarrassed to have my family meet him because although I know he's a good guy, I know they're all going to say "What is she thinking?" We get a lot of confused looks in public, I've noticed. We are definitely in stark contrast to one another looks-wise. Personality-wise, we mesh reasonably well...neither of us are perfect, but he's good company. I just don't know what to do. I'm not to the point where I'm 100% crazy about him, but what if I get "stuck" in a relationship where I don't find my partner handsome at all? Sometimes it seems like his personality isn't enough to save him. Help! moreResolved Question: How do I move on without my solemate by my side.?
I am sure I am going to get answers from some of you that are typical,. But what I really am after is some closure. I have been married for 4 years and with my love for 6. I have two beautiful step-daughters who I have raised for this whole time as well. Ages 7 and 10. At the beginning of Feb. my wife and I had one to many dissagreement's and well, thats when the life that I had changed forever in the blink of an eye. I have been the first to admit that I had got on a path that was not healthy for our relationship and although I take credit for getting us there she was indeed right beside me. No physical abuse ever (from me at least) there was obviously yelling at each other and the battle of wills that developed between us. Ultimately she decided that she no longer should have to live in a world that was so unhappy. A big problem with this I have is, I didnt want to either. I was just as worn out and sick of the situation as she . It was one of the times in a relationship where it had hit a spot and never could get past it. Instead of stepping forward we had been stepping backward. We both knew it. Problem was we didnt know how to fix it or get past the hump. Going into this winter I knew it was going to be a stuggle. I am a self employeed Concrete Contractor and in Iowa in the winter there really isnt much Concrete to pour.. I of course know tis so I make investments to flip for proffit in the winter. Its a good way to make money but its also very stressful not knowing when or if the thing you have ready to sell will sell. Many of times I would be sent a buyer on the last possible day before payments were due on stuff. Make a long story shorter I was not a partner to my wife as I should have been. I knew this when it was happening but didnt understand why she couldnt understand that I had bills to pay and sacrifices had to be made in the short term so in the long term we could be happier. It had got to a point I really had lost faith in her. That was until the day I looked into her eyes and could she how much she was hurting as she told me she was moving out. I knew then at that very moment that I had just lost my solemate. Its been almost 2 months now and everyday I cry when I think about them. I cant seem to get the fact she has lost the love she had and is unwilling to let her heart come back. She moved into a second home we had as an investment property, I had been paying the morgage for two homes for three years. I am glsd she is in a good home and I am glad she can feel safe. Alot has happened since that day she told me she was done. I had hit rock bottom and have not been able to get the want or the motivation to get on with life. My life is and always had been with her. I was to take care of her needs and take care of her girls in all aspects, I tried but in the end I failed because I tried to hard. There is now a no contact order on me. She was told by her mother and lawyer to place one on me so she could have full control of the house she moved into. I have not been to good with this . I have a real problem with the fact I did nothing at all to warrant a no contact order nothing but try to get my family back. I know have my wife completely against me. She has been completely brainwashed by people around her. I believes she actually thinks that I am going to harm her. I would never in a m,illion years lay a finger on her. Anyway its her way of hiding from the issues at hand. I know her and I know how she works. Out of site out of mind. She has moved on and left me in the life she left behind. I have cops at my house daily trying to arrest me for violation of order. Now I admit that I have done this once or twice sent her a text message or a quick phone call to say hi. But its got out of hand. She is to the point where she is actually aiding and embedding in getting me to violate the order. Each violation carries a manditory 7 day jail. Make one call boom 7 day. The crime doesnt fit the punishment. As I said I have done nothing to this woman but love her. Her mother is behind this and she is out to distroy me. Her mother has a great influence on her now that I am out of picture. She talked to her 1700 minutes last month of the phone. Anyway. at this point I have had swat team at my house to get me , one other time the kicked in my door to the house to get me . They have tazzerd my dog to get to me. really am screwed. But at the end of the day I still love her,. I ask myself why all the time, My answer is because I kow she loves me and I know she is in more pain than I am and as her husband I have a duty to take care of my family. In the end I know that I have done more harm than good I guess but I have no idea how to just let the monsters in her life take her away . How can I just sit and allow this to happen? She knows she loves me she has been very upfront about that. She is so guilty inside for doing these things to me she moreResolved Question: Which party is best to put my faith in ukip or bnp?
Please read my statement with an open mind. As a teenager it baffles me and concerns me why people of today are so short sighted and not willing to look beyond the here and now. I really am becoming really concerned about whats happening and what the future has in store. We are an ageing nation approaching becoming an ethnic minority on our own ancestral land within the next 40 years. If we are losing our ancestral identities, culture etc, why does nobody care? The more cosmopolitan Britain becomes, the more freedoms you and your descendants will lose, Geographically, Demographically, Economically, Politically, Socially If we are demographically outnumbered, we lose Economic, Political, and geographic advantage http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk_politics/7938173.stm If we need immigration to replace the ageing population, then why not be sensible about it and try encourage more appropriate mass immigration from our natural partners,america,australia,canada, we share the same language, ancestry are cultures are compatible. That we can all relax and in the long term we all benefit. liblabcon and their narrow ends are selling us and our descendants down the river and the river is leading us to the abyss. Then we have the socialists,who i know are well meaning, but the reality is we will end up worse off under their way doing things. We can still have friendship and free trade with the e.u, but we can go back to govening ourselves and being more realistic on who we let it. moreVoting Question: Ex partner contact with child. unable to make further arrangements?
Hi, My partner and I split up 4 years ago I am now 26 she is 23 our son is now 5 . For 3 1/2 years my son has lived with me, I am the father. In the 3 1/2 years she has not provided a penny towards his upbringing, I have not got the CSA involved because I want her to want to provide for him, and not forced to pay for his upbringing. For the first 8 months of our son living with me she had no contact with either of us, she would walk past us in the street without saying a word, she even drove past us on xmas day and did not stop. Ok then she decided she wanted access, after me allowing her to have him for a few hours a week it became a full day a week (every Wednesday) time passed she wanted to change the day to a Saturday which was better as he was starting school. But every now and then she would phone me saying, can you pick him up, I don’t feel well, or he’s upset, or he’s not well. She then started asking for more contact, my worry was if I get him more involved in her life and she decides to disappear again it’s my son that is going to suffer. She does not work, and has no permanent place of residence, she lives at her mums, but when she falls out with her mum, she moves to her dads and vice versa. When she meets a new boyfriend she stays at his. I basically said to her, if you get a job and show your willing to provide for your son and show commitment and consistency then you can see him all you want. This I thought was fair, for him and it gives me peace of mind that she won’t decide to get up and leave. A year passed by, no job, several short term boyfriends which she allows contact with our son and no permanent home. Also not one penny towards his upbringing. I have tried to make sure she is more involved in his life, by getting her tickets to his school plays ect. She is now demanding more access, I am constantly receiving abuse messages. I should also mention I am now in another relationship and have another child with my partner who is a university student. I have been with my partner for 3 years and have a one year old child. We all live together in our family home. She hates the fact that my partner is helping to bring him up. She thinks I am restricting access because of money, buts it’s far from that. I don’t need her money, I am in a well paid full time job and provide for my 2 children and my partner. She does not seem to realise that I want her to get a job so she can provide for our son and show commitment Certain situations make me think she wants to see him more because she pressured by other family members and because my partner is more involved than she is. I drop him off every Saturday and she is still in her pj’s, so she does not make an effort to get dressed for him She is constantly disappointing him, getting him involved with her short term boyfriends who he gets attached to and then it ends leaving him confused , promising him birthday presents and when it comes around she does not even get him a card. Promising him he’s going to get his own bedroom at a new house she is going to get and asking him how he would like it, and then nothing coming of it. He has slept over a few times, but then he complains because she did not get up to make him breakfast her little sister did it. She tells him who she is in love with or why she only loves someone and not in-love with them. She’s told him why she is take contraception pills, stuff he does not need to know at 5. This disappointment is all in the 1 day a week she has him, what will it be like if allow more access? She always posts on facebook how she wants to move away, and glad she only has him one day a week. I am now at my wits end and can no longer cope with the stress she is causing. I feel I have been fair, but she won’t meet me half way. She wants more access to wont sort her life out to show she committed in giving him the care and attention he needs. I need opinions on what to do, I dread receiving messages from her and no longer feel I can cope communicating with her anymore. I want him to have more contact with her, but I don’t feel the circumstances are right. Sorry if this seems a little confusing and all over the place There is a lot more gone on but unable to type out every incident, as this would never end. Any advice would be great, do I allow more access, do I go seek legal advice? Many thanks in advance. moreVoting Question: I wasn't let outside much in my childhood...affecting me in my later years what to do?
Well finally 26 and starting to come to terms with it. Is there any groups out there even online with people who have been confined in a way when they were a kid? My mum was very possessive/abusive and the only times I was allowed outside was for school, trips with my mother or playing happy family at rare outings. I saw one friend rarely, and it was only because my mum knew her mum was very very strict with everything. If I was allowed outside, it was usually because my mum and dad were fighting, or if I stayed in our backyard or front yard (mum watching) Because I was indoors for so long, I find it hard going out and socializing, or even going outside on a day to day basis. I have not many friends, I learnt to withdraw into myself and I am very immature with a lot of things. Its like everyone around me is growing up and I am left behind mentally. Some health problems and I have never gotten use to proper daylight. It still hurts my eyes even over a decade later. I have a partner now, but he cannot take it and I am too scared to ask for help. I have been on antidepressants for near 10 years but haven't gotten any help since I broke free at 16. I feel there is something wrong with me, but I find myself now prefering to stay inside most days and it does make me worry once in a while. I don't know how to completely take care of myself, and I hate it when a lot of people say I am immature and nothing is an excuse. Maybe it isn't. My mum now tells everyone I am crazy and she never did anything to me. The scary thing is people believe her and I am left alone in the cold. Again. I've been told the many times I slept outside as usual on the veranda with a blanket I stole was because of my own faults. My mum came out and took the blanket off me if she saw it and went back inside locking the doors. At least I had somewhere to sleep I suppose. I am in Australia. moreResolved Question: Ladies: Why do you tell someone you love its over and you'll never change your mind, when you don't mean it?
Last week my girlfriend of 11 months broke up with me quite suddenly. This was not easy, we've known each other since 9th grade (I'm 26 now), and we have quite a few mutual friends. We broke up because I had come home from a 12 hour day of work (4 hours in a car), had a migraine - and she became insanely upset that I didn't want to talk about some of the hardships and challenges going on in her life. I'm not an ass - I talk to her all the time about those same hardships - this one particular day I just was so worn down - and so stressed - I simply wasn't in the mood to talk that night. We went to bed angry and she broke up with me the next day - claiming I didn't care about her, and I have no long-term potential. She asked to be friends - and I said I'll always consider you a friend - but I cannot be around you or see you for a very long time because my feelings are so strong for you. She didn't take it very well - and there were days of silence. Occasionally I'd send a text and ask her if she wanted to talk - she'd say "sure but I'm not changing my mind about anything." Ok so then and there I took it on the chin like a man - I told myself I was going to surround myself with friends, focus on my career, start DJ'ing at nightclubs again - basically focus on myself and finding someone who wanted to be with me - start online dating in the near future - I mentally prepared myself to move on even though I was crushed inside. One week after the break-up she invites me over to talk - not once did I mention getting back together because she told me it wasn't an option - and I'll NEVER beg for anyone - its pathetic and degrading. She admitted that the week we broke up she was furious because I was getting facebook messages from friends supporting me, people were confirming the nights I was DJ'ing, and there were some flirty text messages from girls I have no interest in telling me that I deserve better (I didnt agree - the girl I'm with is amazing - but she still saw the facebook messages). Then one week later - out of no where she invited me over to talk and said - she was wrong - she over-reacted - she wants me back - and now things are great. My question is - how can women possibly let someone they love know there is no chance of getting back together when it is not true or when you don't mean it? Don't tell me its because you want to see if they actually care or not - because that doesn't make sense - because a huge percentage of men will care but will not pursue something he was told to be impossible or futile. Men have a hard enough time understanding the basics of women - when you throw a curve-ball and say its over forever - but you don't mean it - you risk losing the love of your life in some cases. How can you allow yourself that kind of risk when you can simply tell your partner "hey you really messed up and hurt me, don't do it again." We are back together - and everything is great - but I ask this question so that other men don't make the same mistake I did. If I had known there was even a slight chance for forgiveness, I would have tried really hard even if there was a chance of failure, but a definite "No its over for good" could cause a man you love to move on for good. I'm not looking for an answer - whoever provides the best insight and/or similar example gets the 10 points. thanks for reading this long one. I should have mentioned she did know I had a hard day - not really an excuse - but she knew moreResolved Question: How do you deal with facebook in your relationship?
Do you care about who your partner adds on fb? Does it matter to you whether he/she is adding more people of the opposite sex? How about if he/she is adding more people of the opposite sex from your contacts? I just wanted to see how people in marriage or long-term relationship deal with the whole fb thing as some people say it can be source of problem. moreVoting Question: Im in a relationship, but very jealous about her ex partners :(?
Im in a loving relationship with a very caring girl. We have been going out for nearly 8 months now but I cant help but be very jealous of her ex partners. I just cant stand the thought of her and her two previous long term partners doing anything together in, 'that way' :( just make me sad to think im not really the only one, and makes me feel just a lil weird :( What can I do to control any of these feelings? :( and does she feel maybe the same about me? :( moreResolved Question: What can you tell her...?
Six years ago my wife decided she was not going to have sex with me, because "her hormones"did not work properly, I somehow understood that and waited while advised her to go to her Gynecologist as well as to counseling with a therapist (I'd pay for everything), she did not go to any of those and to add more problems to what already was a pretty bad situation, she isolated me completely from any kind of intimacy, she closed herself completely to me and never discussed anything to me or talked anything pleasant to me at all. I have to admit that in fact sex did not go exactly to zero because we have had sex about ten times in those six years (one of those times she got pregnant again). I have studied the problem as to perfectly understand that hypoactive sexual desire disorder is something that can happen, I also understand the modern school of thought led by Dr. David Schnarch who theorizes that low sex desire is nothing but normal and that some slow intimacy may also be expected several times in a long term stable relationship. Then... what can my question be? Well is just this (my wife asked me to post it here). Even though I have tried to avoid anything like extramarital affairs, and have fought the low self esteem that stems from being continuously rejected from your partner, at some point (two years ago) I was so depressed that I had sex one to six times with the same young lady in one week and ... even worse I experimented homo sex with a friend of mine (and did not enjoy at all), I was so depressed that I thought that I could recover if anyone cared about me in any way, unfortunately I just found out that I love my wife so much that the only thing I got was a terrible feeling of lacking integrity. Two years more passed and I got back part of my self thanks to her having an emotional affair with another friend of mine, an affair that convinced me I had been wasting my whole life and that I had given up my career, and my youth for someone that has taken any possible action to avoid sharing her feelings with me. She know says that she loves me desperately but...now she cannot be intimate with me because I had sex with a man. The question asked by her is: Is she right for feeling this way? (I have my own answer but won't post it) Thanks dear community friends for your answers, they shall be greatly appreciated moreResolved Question: Help please, i need advice?
I have been with my guy for 7.5 years and I ony stay over on the weekend, by the way we are engaged and have travelled all over the world.I had a ring yes. We saw each other mostly every day and had such a great time together. Only recently I asked him isnt it about time we lived together or at least have me staying more on the weekend. I mentioned its like being with a married guy waiting for the guy to leave his wife, except he is single. I said shall we give it another yr and then if you still dont want to let me stay longer, call it a day? He started to go very quiet and stopped seeing me as much. He was possibly being made redundant in work as well and he has a fantastic job. Normally I am a girl who dresses up for her guys, turns up with nothing on, that kind of thing but seeing as he was ignoring me, I stopped until we could reach an agreement. I was being very fair, if he allowed me to stay one more night in the week (I didnt want to push him) then I'd go back to normal as being told I could only stay once a week is making me feel used. I explained its hard to stay bubbly and happy 24 hours a day and no sign of our future or anything as he likes to just go with the flow. Finally I got really mad because his whole family said he was taking the mick out of me. 7 yrs together and only spend the night on a sat?? I said if he isnt interesed and is just using me then tell me. Also my dad wanted to know exactly what his intentions were as he though I was also being used. I asked him to take my dad out for a drink and tell him to just take the pressure off me. He never did and his attitude changed a bit. Then he started seeing another girl (but said nothing is going on) and then told me a few weks ago, he tells me he loves me like a sister?????????? The girl also kept sending me nasty messages with things like " he only got engaged to keep you until I came along, he doesnt love you, I'm going to marry him" ner ner ner nerner. The child. He is also 20 yrs older than her. Owch - I know why he said that, but does it sound bad of me to say to my long term guy, why cant I stay because when I sleep with you and then have to go home I feel used. And I am not a prude, I enjoy intercourse on a very regular basis - but why should I make the effort to wear stockings, uniforms and etc when he wont even mediate on anything. Its not nice being with a guy that length and having his family say he's using me. She is 22, blonde with dreadlocks and tattoos and piercings. I am 28, dark, italian and normal hair. His mates told me that hes an idiot and the difference between her and me is, she is a tramp and I'm a classy girl. I dont think of people like that bt I do not like her. When she asked him out, I told her Im his fiance and all she said was "who cares- I want him and I'm going to get him so you dont mean anything" She said he was a lovely looking guy and she was going to get him no matter what | said. His pals said when we got together they couldnt believe he managed to get somebody like me and now he has gone for a dreadlock girl with millions of gold banges, flowery dresses and nose piercings with tattoos who rolls her own cigarettes with chipped nails who told me my guy is lovely because he's a gentleman, has a fab job, his own house, his own car etc. All i ever loved about him was himself, not his assets. How do iget us back together as he said it was a huge mistake. I am not shallow, I never break people up and no matter how much I like someone, if they have a partner, I walk away. Help. moreResolved Question: help please, i need advice?
I have been with my guy for 7.5 years and I ony stay over on the weekend, by the way we are engaged and have travelled all over the world.I had a ring yes. We saw each other mostly every day and had such a great time together. Only recently I asked him isnt it about time we lived together or at least have me staying more on the weekend. I mentioned its like being with a married guy waiting for the guy to leave his wife, except he is single. I said shall we give it another yr and then if you still dont want to let me stay longer, call it a day? He started to go very quiet and stopped seeing me as much. He was possibly being made redundant in work as well and he has a fantastic job. Normally I am a girl who dresses up for her guys, turns up with nothing on, that kind of thing but seeing as he was ignoring me, I stopped until we could reach an agreement. I was being very fair, if he allowed me to stay one more night in the week (I didnt want to push him) then I'd go back to normal as being told I could only stay once a week is making me feel used. I explained its hard to stay bubbly and happy 24 hours a day and no sign of our future or anything as he likes to just go with the flow. Finally I got really mad because his whole family said he was taking the mick out of me. 7 yrs together and only spend the night on a sat?? I said if he isnt interesed and is just using me then tell me. Also my dad wanted to know exactly what his intentions were as he though I was also being used. I asked him to take my dad out for a drink and tell him to just take the pressure off me. He never did and his attitude changed a bit. Then he started seeing another girl (but said nothing is going on) and then told me a few weks ago, he tells me he loves me like a sister?????????? The girl also kept sending me nasty messages with things like " he only got engaged to keep you until I came along, he doesnt love you, I'm going to marry him" ner ner ner nerner. The child. He is also 20 yrs older than her. Owch - I know why he said that, but does it sound bad of me to say to my long term guy, why cant I stay because when I sleep with you and then have to go home I feel used. And I am not a prude, I enjoy intercourse on a very regular basis - but why should I make the effort to wear stockings, uniforms and etc when he wont even mediate on anything. Its not nice being with a guy that length and having his family say he's using me. She is 22, blonde with dreadlocks and tattoos and piercings. I am 28, dark, italian and normal hair. His mates told me that hes an idiot and the difference between her and me is, she is a tramp and I'm a classy girl. I dont think of people like that bt I do not like her. When she asked him out, I told her Im his fiance and all she said was "who cares- I want him and I'm going to get him so you dont mean anything" She said he was a lovely looking guy and she was going to get him no matter what | said. His pals said when we got together they couldnt believe he managed to get somebody like me and now he has gone for a dreadlock girl with millions of gold banges, flowery dresses and nose piercings with tattoos who rolls her own cigarettes with chipped nails who told me my guy is lovely because he's a gentleman, has a fab job, his own house, his own car etc. All i ever loved about him was himself, not his assets. How do iget us back together as he said it was a huge mistake. I am not shallow, I never break people up and no matter how much I like someone, if they have a partner, I walk away. Help. moreResolved Question: Need Geography help?
NOTE: YOU DON'T HAVE TO ANSWER ALL THE QUESTIONS, BUT AT LEAST ANSWER 5. THE PERSON THAT ANSWERS THE MOST (AND GETS THEM RIGHT) GETS VOTED "BEST ANSWER". THANKS!!!! :D ********************************************************QUESTIONS************************************************* 2. What is a newly industrialized nation? A. a country with an agrarian based economy, but social and political progress B. a country with a more advanced economy, but not the same social and political progress C. a country with industry and farming D. a country with social and political progress, but lacking an advanced economic system 3. Which island is directly south of Florida? A. Puerto Rico B. Haiti C. Cuba D. Jamaica 4. What body of water is found between Honduras and Cuba? A. The Atlantic Ocean B. The Gulf of Mexico C. The Caribbean Sea D. The North Pacific Ocean 5. Which island is east of the Dominican Republic? A. Cuba B. Puerto Rico C. Haiti D. Jamaica 6. Which two islands comprise the island of Hispaniola? A. Haiti and the Dominican Republic B. Haiti and Cuba C. Haiti and Jamaica D. Haiti and Puerto Rico 7. What is the definition for trench? A. Formed by sediment from plant and animal remains B. Long, but narrow, topographical depression C. Narrow strip of land connecting two landmasses D. Group of islands 8. Who is Central America’s main trading partner? A. Mexico B. Venezuela C. The United States D. Canada 9. The first signs of complex society in Mesoamerica are that of which civilization? A. Maya B. Aztec C. Olmec D. San Lorenzo 10. What is a microloan? A. a very small government aid package for developing countries B. a small loan to finance education for families in underdeveloped countries C. very small, short-term loan for a small business owner in an underdeveloped country D. a very small community support program in an underdeveloped country 11. A microloan would support which of the following projects? A. cattle farming B. handcrafts C. textbooks for school D. tobacco plantation 12. What country is an isthmus linking Central and South America? A. Honduras B. Guatemala C. Panama D. Puerto Rico 13. What are the three main sources of income for Cuba? A. tobacco, health care, cigars B. bananas, coffee, and tobacco C. tobacco, tourism, and sugar D. molasses, tourism, and sugar 14. What is the definition of archipelago? A. Narrow strip of land connecting two landmasses B. Long, but narrow, topographical depression C. Group of islands D. Formed by sediment from plant and animal remains 15. ____ shares a border with Mexico. A. Guatemala B. Costa Rica C. Puerto Rico D. Honduras 16. In general, what is a developing nation? A. agrarian based society with low to medium standard of living B. industrialized society with high birth rates C. low birth rates and high standard of living D. agrarian based society with low birth rates and high standard of living 17. The economy of Central America is primarily based on what two things? A. exports and agriculture B. coffee and bananas C. coffee and tourism D. tourism and agriculture 18. What is the definition for isthmus? A. Long, but narrow, topographical depression B. Formed by sediment from plant and animal remains C. Narrow strip of land connecting two landmasses D. Group of islands 19. Belize shares a border with Mexico. True False 20. How is Central America impacted by a recession and financial problems in the United States? A. Sale of exports from Central America is reduced B. No impact at all C. More money will go to Central America instead of the U.S. D. Fewer opportunities for emigration to the U.S. 21. How was power transferred in the Mayan society? A. election B. primogeniture C. war D. based on the calendar 22. Which Central American country is home to the Baboon Sanctuary – dedicated to protecting the black howler monkey population? A. Honduras B. Belize C. Costa Rica D. Panama 23. What is a dangerous side-effect of hurricanes in the Central American region? A. volcanoes B. earthquakes C. tidal surge D. mudslides 24. What is the climate of Central America? A. mainly temperate B. mainly tropical and subtropical C. mainly agrarian D. mainly tropical with some arctic zones in the mountains 25. An archipelago is a large group of islands. True False 26. What landform forms on coral reefs as a result of wave action? A. archipelagos B. sandbars C. cays D. isthmus 27. Who outlawed the Maya religion and burned all but four of their sacred bark-paper books in the 16th century? Questions # 27-whatever question is going to be on another one of my questions, I'll put the link on this question. Questions # 27 through 50: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100318113023AAKVThF questions 1-26 @: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AuJSfXK4nOXTvigd48ZSKt_sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100318111749AAaIgSj 27-50 @: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhXfcvMBxq_ai7whuzVMApzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100318113023AAKVThF 51-60 @: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ah_ot9F6Va7kMn9TZ4vmDm3sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100318113242AA9xGC0 moreVoting Question: i lied to my ex gf and i feel terrible?
My gf has been breaking up with me for 2 years now on and off because she couldn't come out of the closet. We finally split up in jnuary bc I thought she was cheating on me ... it hasn't even been 2 months and she's already seeing this guy. I told her I have been in a long term relationship. But I lied. She said she couldn't handle hear it emotionally and was crying??? I never told I had a busines in florida and told her it was my partner. And things happened between us during our break up. We have been together for 4 years. But I didn't know if I could trust her to tell her I had my own thing going on... so she has asssumed for these past 4 years I had no goals and commitments bc I have been in and out of school since I been with her. The truth is I didn't have to work here. Was I wrong to hold that from her if I didn't trust her? Should I care that she thinks I have no goals or commitments For 2 years she told me she couldn't live this lifestyle with me. And that she didn't think she was gay.... she's already sleeping with someone else....and in a relationship. And she has been avoiding me for 2 months. Why would she care? Is it bc she thought I was cheating on her these past 4 years? And not bc I'm with someone now? moreVoting Question: Can somebody help me understand this woman? Can women answer please.?
Hi I have just stepped away from a two and a half year relationship. We met in the beginning as pure sexual partners. However as I got to know her, a feeling sorry for or caring side of me developed, this developed inevitably into love. I discovered that my ex did not have a lot of money, she had just come out of depression, she was dating a man who turned out not to be very nice, promised her many things and left her on the streets. She has a son of ten years old, who was left by a man who once again previous to the above, promised her things made her have the baby married her and then left her. Previous to that she left her 1st husband who she had four children with, but then divorced him, because she wanted more out of life. She went from relationship to relationship, and some of these men as mentioned above the two treated her really bad. When she was 14 yrs old she was raped by a school bully and I dont think she opened up to her parents. She is 18 yrs older then me do the sums I am 33, but beautiful for her age. I genuinely reached out for this woman, my baggage was that I am from an indian background, and my parents would eventually seeking an indian wife for me. So I made it clear from the start of the relationship that I could not make any long term promises to her. However as my caring side kicked in, all I wanted to do is help this lovely woman. At four months of the relationship, I even hinted, that I would like to keep the relationship platonic, however I could not bare to see the disappointment in her eyes, and so I gave in. I tried walking away several times but I kept giving in. I really woked at turning her whole life around, to get her unbalanced kids to feel balance, gave her a better job with better hours, leant money for a car etc. The inevitable day when I had to leave, she ran of with a coke dealer muppet, we both discovered that neither of us were attracted to our partners, so we got back together and stopped resisting how we felt for each other, and tried for the whole thing. However with two months she started pushing me away, and became an absolute control freak when it came to my emotions. I am very protective of this person, and I do admit that I was posessive and would not give her her space. This was because she used to play games with my head like this guy chatted me up and that one etc, and these guys were chatting me up, and how she cheated on one of her ex's once with the muppet who left her on the street. So you see i useto react, she never useto give me any positive compliments she useto never fully express love to me, if I tried standing up to her she would react that I was being nasty when I was not. She wanted me around when it suited her and gone when it suited her. We eventually split, I guess one day I just had enough, I due to my weakness for her tried reconciling on the 14th Feb, however this failed she would not even talk with me. Threatened a restraing order if I continued to try and pursue her, she has blocked all her numbers. I sense there is no other man in her life. I dont understand, somebody help. I felt so wussy towards the end and inferior. Whats going on, can I change the course of this relationship. moreResolved Question: How to get over meeting a loser guy who is rude, nasty, and mean?
this guy and I were talking, he said he loved and cared for me, but he always talks about sex, and his past sexual experiences now prior to that he would talk about a future with me. he's 30 and I'm 18. I felt if he really loved me he'd be there for me, to meet my family, but he is always asking for sex, arriving late to hang out, if he even shows up. he didn't show up once, and was late the other 2 times an hour late. I feel like crap because he lied and said he would be there for me, and do all this stuff, hang out, etc. and now all he cares about is talking about sex, all the time. I haven't had sex with him, as I think that's all he cares about. he's had 20 sex partners, and he's seen me naked before and was saying sexually explicit stuff to me on the phone like phone sex, I partake in the nudity and phone sex thinking it would be a long term relationship, and he just isn't there anymore. I believed his lies, and I feel hurt by all of this, guess because I trusted, spent time, talked to him 3 months, shared my whole life story, let him see me naked, and everything, and then today I call, he can't even pick up the phone when I call I had to call blocked for him to even pick up the phone, and he says I don't have time to be talking on the phone for hours, and hangs up the phone. I do have a right to be very upset and cuss him out, and now he calls me the b word, all this other stuff its horrible. hmm I have never been treated like that, guess that's why its hurtful. me having met someone and having someone like that talking to me, being around me, seeing me, that's what aggreviates me. moreResolved Question: would you hate me...?
... if i was all this while of 30yrs i had been lesbian but recently feel in love with a man and decided to get married? i was what you would call a hardcore butch that didnt need to bind and i looked so "boy" even with long hair. and yep, ive always loved women. ive seen how my sisters would always get hurt by their bfs and i'd swore to take care of the ladies that i know and not hurt them that way. i was kinda like a crusader for women... i guess thru the years ive grown wiser and mature and grew out of that phase... now im my early 30s, after the long winding relationships of women after women (i've had 4 long-term female partners), im very much attracted to a man and he, to me. we started talking about making it "forever"... marriage was in talks... the problem is - my bestest friends who themselves are butches, are slowly not talking to me. im losing them and its hurting me. a few casual gay/lesbian friends have started calling me "traitor" and made remarks i'd forgotten my roots... my reply has always been "ive always bee a woman, i've never denied that. im just being me"... So, would you'all hate me, just cos i wanna get married and be happy ? moreResolved Question: Co-worker is being a snob. How do I cope with her?
I need to preface with this... I have been working as a Psych. Tech for an after-school program for children with significant psychological and behavioral needs. I have held this position for almost 3 years and during that time I have witnessed some of my co-workers acting like they were the ones in need of help. Each one complains about the various stressors related to the job; and they also, complain about each other. Every time I walk into the front office someone is talking about somebody and not in a respectful way. This makes me wonder if they talk about me. Ok. I admit it has. I'm almost paranoid in fact. I don't feel comfortable talking about others and being present when others are talking about someone-- esp. a co-worker behind their back. I co-lead a group with a girl named "Kate." Kate is a nice girl for the most part but I feel, since she has worked there longer sees the room as her territory. She makes changes and such without asking me-- and that's fine. She has some good ideas. But on many days when she walks in she never asks me how I am doing after me asking her. Almost like she doesn't care. She also knows I am single and continually plays with and stares at her wedding ring during program. I'm glad she's married but shouldn't her focus be on the kids? I was talking to her the other day about how her 3 month leave of absence had affected me. I admitted I felt like I burned out and since she returned, I felt things were much more balanced and like I could breathe again. She looked at me like I had 3 heads. She obviously did not appreciate me stepping in for her and covering things while she was away. I told her that I bet we all, at some point have felt burned out... and it's true. One of our Clinicians is leaving because of it. Lately, our program has gone through significant changes and our jobs are reduced to that of baby-sitters. I joined Kate and another co-worker in a conversation last night. We were all talking about how stressful working with the kids can be-- how we all need time off (we all agreed); and how we don't have a lot to do in terms of programing. The other co-worker said she was thinking about going back to school and I said "Me too!" Kate looked shocked when I said this. I don't understand this? My boss said Kate has gone though many partners and I think I know why. How do I deal with her? moreResolved Question: Does HIPPA still apply after someone has died?
Does HIPPA still apply after someone has died? One of my best friends, "Tom" (not his real name) went into the hospital about 3 weeks ago with Pneumonia. Last Tuesday, he developed a GI bleed, and died on Wednesday. I'm beside myself with grief. But I'm also angry because of a conversation I had with another of my best friends, "John", the night of Tom's viewing. John is friends with one of the nurses who had taken care of Tom, and she told John that Tom was in the hospital with Pneumocystis Carinii Pneumonia, related to his HIV/AIDS. Now, while I suspected my friend Tom of being HIV positive, he never told any of his friends whether he was or not. His former long-term partner has full blown AIDS, but Tom never divulged to anyone whether he had tested positive or not. I'm furious that this nurse is telling random friends who had no direct patient contact with Tom about his HIV status, and why he was in the hospital. If Tom were alive, this would be a huge HIPPA violation. Does HIPPA still apply after death? Can I pursue action against this nurse? moreResolved Question: domestic violence and injustice please advise?
six years ago i was charged with assault with battery. i was in a long term relationship with my partner and we had a baby, he was violent in the relationship mentally and physically, many witnesses, i instigated the violence by questioning his sexual habits and his lack of physical attraction, he would insult me to the point that i would push him, that would entail me receiving a punch, head but, thrown across a room, and strangulation, naturally i would hold a hand up or something to stop him hurting me more, if i retaliated he would threaten me with the police and would instantly call them, always when we've had a few to drink knowing the police would support him. i never used the police as i had children and didn't want them to see the police, he beat me for two years or so, but to this very day still tortures me because he has the all the support of the police. one day i couldn't take the beatings anymore, so i confronted him verbally, why you dont show me love etc, and he told me how fat and ugly and useless i had become after our baby, and naturally it hurt so i pushed him, he would over exaggerate the push enough to give him the excuse to throw me across the kitchen into the radiator with my face down into the dog bowl, the pain in my back was excruciating but i was frightened i saw this man coming to really hurt me (by then i had experienced him strangle me to the point i nearly passed out, head butted me, so my nose broke, slap and punch me, steal my money, my mobile phone and land line so i could never call for help) so i bent down did a back slap and caught his face with my ring...he stormed out as per usual with all my money and my phones, return that night after me begging him, everything returned to normal or what normal was. the following day im bathing our baby and a knock on the door it was the police to arrest me as my ex had hauled them down the previous night and they questioned why he had a blood shot eye, he stipulated that i had once again been violent to him, naturally the police have the right to take it upon themselves to deal with domestic situations and came the following day to arrest me, i said oh my god, again, please wait until my partner comes home to take care of our baby, so they accepted and said if they hadn't heard from me by 1pm they would come out and arrest me. my ex came home after i told him and he called the police stating i was in a mess, (i was crying badly) they came to arrest me, i was interviewed and protected my ex by not telling them that he was the one that had violated me all this time, he had made me believe with the support of the police that i was the violent one, i believed it as i was a broken woman, and wanted our family to work and be back to normal i as terrified of losing my children (i already had a daughter from a previous relationship, she was six when this came to the end) i had been so broken down i just agreed with the police everything, i also was so frightened he was going to take my babies away, he had threatened it to my family as well as threaten to kill my family, i had lost all my close friends as he had blackmailed me with them, i didn't seek legal advice as i wasn't right at the time mentally as i had been tortured, so i turned up to court (ironically im a law abiding citizen and had been studying for a law degree myself) the police gave my statement which was false as i didn't tell them what i had been through in fear of my family, and the magistrates charged me first offence assault with battery, is there anyway i can revoke this, is there any justice for me now, my career has been destroyed, i used to be a bank manager, i cant get any employment in my experienced fields because of my criminal record, so i lost our home, because i couldn't work, now we are in temporary accommodation no bath just a shower, and still he blackmails me as im on benefits including income support and if i disagree with anything he stops child support, god the story is endless, but this is just a small snip it of what i went through, i want my criminal record revoked i want justice, is there anyway, i am now prepared to fight for my rights, can anyone advise me please...i look forward to any questions and advice. moreVoting Question: Love vs life: I am dating two girls and now am debating between Love and Life?
Love vs life: I am dating two girls and now am debating between Love and Life? I have being dating a lady for a long time which I love. she is beautiful both on the inside and outside. recently I met a lady not as beautiful inwardly and outwardly as the 1st girl am dating, but everything about her is lively, fun and fruitful. meaning in this little time we have met we have been able to help one another out in life, promote and I have a great time Always with her. I know as time goes on I might know her true character fall in love emotional with her. my question, should I go ahead with the new (even duo not as beautiful inwardly and outwardly as my 1st girl but she make me feel fruitful and have fun in life) or stay my beautiful girl even duo what we have is that emotional love not excitement love like the new girl. I know she will be a good life partner but the little time spend with the new girl has been fruitful in my life. I don't I know enough of the new girl for me to judge if she will be a good life partner as am sure of my 1st girl. 1st girl vs new girl. emotional love vs excitement love support and partnership vs the right life connect to make more of life and fruitfulness. this is exacting what am debating in my head now. I love and care about my girl but the new girl has bought so many wonders in a short time. if u ask me I want to go with the new girl but the emotional connect and care that I have for my 1st girl is making me question if I am making the right choice that why am on here today. NOTE: please don't question how I got meet two ladies, it is a long, life story. please let leave it at that and help me with the question. people u seem to forget one important thing for me which is fruitfullness. the issue here is not she is new (and everything that comes with being new) but truely have good time with her. again meeting her, life has change in terms of making more out of life beco. of her right connection. to me this is very important in life. good rewards in life and good fun time. moreVoting Question: Does it make me a pansy?
I'm asking this here in all seriousness, because I know you blunt and straightforward ladies will give me an honest answer on it. If I'm 26 and still a virgin by choice? I have only asked three women out because they're the only ones that were single that I've ever felt anything for. The first turned me down and it didn't work out with the other two past the first 5 dates. I'm average looking and more or less successful financially in terms of having no debt and a decent, albeit only 5 figure job. I've had a few chances in the past to have sex with women but I wasn't ready for it emotionally, as silly as that sounds. I realize sex is just some animalistic mating ritual or stress relief or recreational activity for most people. But that clashes with what I want to believe, and I won't bend on that ideal. I also feel like it would be a slight against my future partner to just go sleeping with some random woman that I feel nothing for. The idea of prostitution makes me physically disgusted. The only reason I could see for myself having sex is to express your love and intimacy with your S.O. or spouse. I'm not sure why I came to believe what I do. My family isn't religious and I'm kind of spiritually dead. I wouldn't care what inhibitions a woman has or had in her past regarding sex, because I think that's her business. Sex isn't something important enough to base a relationship off of (or nix one) in my opinion. I mean as long as she wasn't sleeping with other people when we were dating and didn't have any STDs I wouldn't care. Or if she had a lot of problems with cheating. I do have a strong physical desire to have sex, but I mostly suppress it and don't allow myself to well masturbate. It doesn't bother me that most people my age aren't virgins and I don't expect or want to marry a virginal woman. I would rather have a woman that knows what she's doing and as lame as it sounds also be patient enough to teach me. I could see having a more liberal attitude towards my wife's sexual attitude if it made her happy, as long as she was loyal to me. My brother says I'm a masochist and when I told my friend and she didn't even believe that I believed what I was saying. "But I am concerned that you are in your mid twenties, and you've only felt attraction for three (3) women total in your whole life" I don't get out a lot. moreResolved Question: neighbor always asking for favors?
My partner and I live across the street from a lady we hardly know, who comes to our door every month or so just to ask a favor. She asks for things like, "can you fix my sink disposal? it's broken." (we don't know anything about disposals. My partner suggested she call a plumber). I did help her fill out a job application last month. Yesterday she came by and asked if I could help her for the next 3 days for 3 hours daily, to feed and change the diapers of an elderly relative who she said lives with her, so that she can go on a job she accepted and see if it works out or not. She would pay me something per hour. I have no background in nursing or caretaking. She said she asked all of her other friends and family and none of them can do it. I asked what she would do if she worked out on the job, and she said that she "would have to find someone" to help long-term. I told her that I was very sorry, but that I cannot help her, because I have to work full-time; I had to quit my job recently in order to take care of my daughter for a few months, she was recently diagnosed with a serious mental illness, I have been under enormous stress, and I really cannot take on anything more (this is all true). She just listened, and said, "oh, it's no stress. just feed him, change his diapers..." as if she was hardly asking for anything. I did refer her to a phone number where she can inquire about social services. Anyway, I felt really imposed upon by her request, but at the same time, I wondered, would a more loving and kind person have been willing to say yes? I like to help people, but how does one determine when someone is asking too much of you? Any thoughts appreciated. moreResolved Question: Relationship doubts (Long post ***over 25 only please***)...?
Hello. I'll try to make this as short as I can.... 7 months ago I thought I met my dream girl. Sweet, absolutely gorgeous, educated, spiritual. Things went fine for first two months until the real her started to submerge. She started telling me that she's not as affectionate as she had been acting. Whatever, not a major deal. After about 4 months, we started getting in the mode of these arguments that start up over nothing. I can care less about the argument. My issue is with how disrespectful she would act, yell, insult, hang-up on me. In the heat of the moment, obviously both people aren't on their best behavior, but I'm not used to being in a position where I'm literally getting told off, and that I don't know anything, I talk too much, othertimes talk too little, smh. Whatever right b/c no relationship is perfect... Backtrack for a minute. I can honestly say that I give my all in a relationship. I have never cheated on anybody. I look out for her like a good husband does his wife. She had a fire in her place... It's nothing, please stay with me. I fed her, gassed her car, bought several random greeting cards, brought lunch and desserts to her job. That whole time I did only what I thought a woman deserves, but I got nothing back. She let me use her EBT 2 or 3 times to get a few bucks worth of groceries but that's it; and worse is that's all she remembers doing for me. I doubt she's taking advantage; I feel like she doesn't know that in the real world you have to find out how to love your partner. Not only me, but I feel like most people want to be shown that their efforts of love are not in vain, feel me? She has resisted change SO much from being on time to doing things from me simply b/c she's not used to having anyone but her. This had come up several times in heated arguments so we decided to take a week break. We came back awkward and had even another heated debate on me not showing my spiritual side enough in our relationship. Even in a spiritual debate I'm being cursed at and hung up on over the phone. What the heck right? On a side note, there is a part of my spiritual life that is between me and God. I've tried to incorporate her in many ways into my spiritual network, but praying together nightly and small discussions aren't enough. I just feel like I can only get involved to the point where it has the least resistance on my personal growth. Anyway, she said she felt the same way about her and doing special things for me, and that my expectations are too high. What??? Anyway, after a few days of not speaking, I called her (obviously b/c she has NEVER apologized first for anything seriously), and hanging on a thread she finally humbled down a bit. I even heard her crying thinking that we were done. We decided to give our all where the other person felt neglected and if these issues still keep coming up, it's obviously not supposed to work. Now a week later, I don't know. I'm just drained. We're on good terms but I just have an I don't care anymore attitude. She hasn't done anything for me still; and even though it hasn't been a great deal of time, in my mind I love her but feel like it's too late for her to do anything now. I love her, esp when times are great but can't imagine leaving her OR staying with her. I'm looking around more at other women, and also how they treat their guys. I'm horny as day, and 7 months into a celibate relationship with her that left me to go cold turkey, I just don't feel right. I feel bad when we're both around b/c when we are not into it she is very sweet so it's hard for me to act out how I feel when I still love her. My brain is just telling me to have sex with her and don't do anything for her anymore. Am I the only one who has ever felt like this? I just feel like certain qualities of teamwork and appreciation are the biggest things that leave relationships in a stand still from progression to marriage. I feel like today's woman is more equipped for the corporate world and it takes away from the home life. I want a woman who can balance both but am starting to wonder if it's possible. Women want to be treated like a queen, but sometimes feel demeaned if the guy then expects her to treat him like a queen. smh. I don't know what to do in my situation, I'm starting to daydream about my ideal woman when I'm already in another relationship and in love at that. moreVoting Question: Overpowering relationship doubts (long but please read ***over 25 please***)....?
Hello. I'll try to make this as short as I can.... 7 months ago I thought I met my dream girl. Sweet, absolutely gorgeous, educated, spiritual. Things went fine for first two months until the real her started to submerge. She started telling me that she's not as affectionate as she had been acting. Whatever, not a major deal. After about 4 months, we started getting in the mode of these arguments that start up over nothing. I can care less about the argument. My issue is with how disrespectful she would act, yell, insult, hang-up on me. In the heat of the moment, obviously both people aren't on their best behavior, but I'm not used to being in a position where I'm literally getting told off, and that I don't know anything, I talk too much, othertimes talk too little, smh. Whatever right b/c no relationship is perfect... Backtrack for a minute. I can honestly say that I give my all in a relationship. I have never cheated on anybody. I look out for her like a good husband does his wife. She had a fire in her place... It's nothing, please stay with me. I fed her, gassed her car, bought several random greeting cards, brought lunch and desserts to her job. That whole time I did only what I thought a woman deserves, but I got nothing back. She let me use her EBT 2 or 3 times to get a few bucks worth of groceries but that's it; and worse is that's all she remembers doing for me. I doubt she's taking advantage; I feel like she doesn't know that in the real world you have to find out how to love your partner. Not only me, but I feel like most people want to be shown that their efforts of love are not in vain, feel me? She has resisted change SO much from being on time to doing things from me simply b/c she's not used to having anyone but her. This had come up several times in heated arguments so we decided to take a week break. We came back awkward and had even another heated debate on me not showing my spiritual side enough in our relationship. Even in a spiritual debate I'm being cursed at and hung up on over the phone. What the heck right? On a side note, there is a part of my spiritual life that is between me and God. I've tried to incorporate her in many ways into my spiritual network, but praying together nightly and small discussions aren't enough. I just feel like I can only get involved to the point where it has the least resistance on my personal growth. Anyway, she said she felt the same way about her and doing special things for me, and that my expectations are too high. What??? Anyway, after a few days of not speaking, I called her (obviously b/c she has NEVER apologized first for anything seriously), and hanging on a thread she finally humbled down a bit. I even heard her crying thinking that we were done. We decided to give our all where the other person felt neglected and if these issues still keep coming up, it's obviously not supposed to work. Now a week later, I don't know. I'm just drained. We're on good terms but I just have an I don't care anymore attitude. She hasn't done anything for me still; and even though it hasn't been a great deal of time, in my mind I love her but feel like it's too late for her to do anything now. I love her, esp when times are great but can't imagine leaving her OR staying with her. I'm looking around more at other women, and also how they treat their guys. I'm horny as day, and 7 months into a celibate relationship with her that left me to go cold turkey, I just don't feel right. I feel bad when we're both around b/c when we are not into it she is very sweet so it's hard for me to act out how I feel when I still love her. My brain is just telling me to have sex with her and don't do anything for her anymore. Am I the only one who has ever felt like this? I just feel like certain qualities of teamwork and appreciation are the biggest things that leave relationships in a stand still from progression to marriage. I feel like today's woman is more equipped for the corporate world and it takes away from the home life. I want a woman who can balance both but am starting to wonder if it's possible. Women want to be treated like a queen, but sometimes feel demeaned if the guy then expects her to treat him like a queen. smh. I don't know what to do in my situation, I'm starting to daydream about my ideal woman when I'm already in another relationship and in love at that. moreResolved Question: Please answer!!, need help, I'll answer yours or whatever, please?
Ok me and this girl have been friends for about 3 years and became closer this year. She got dumped twice and I always consoled her and helped her. Well now she recently started with another kid and I was jealous and just plain mad. I always sorta liked her but was happy being just friends. I got mad because she never hangs out with me. When I told her she said she is always really busy and that I should either accept that that is who she is or not be friends. I kinda believe she is busy but then she goes to a play one night then to the mall the next I can't fully believe her word. She says she can only be my friend in school and text all the time. Well in school she only sits next to me at lunch cuz her friend (girl) is next to me and says I'm a plus when she does sit there. Then if any other friends show up I become invisible and she told me to tell her so she can balance out. Outside of school she rarely texts me first. It's every few days she would since now I don't text her first anymore. It's like she never shows I'm her friend. She chose a different lab partner for chem, she never tries to stay after to do tutoring the same day as me. She says I treated her terrible cuz I got mad that she couldnt hang and made her feel guilty for something she says she has no control over and I affected her moods too much. But then she would always say why am I (me) not mad at her and why am I being so nice to her when I should be mad. And I always helped her whenever she needed it (through texting obviously haha). I would compliment her, help her on stuff and always be very nice. Then when I needed it she wasn't there. I injured my shoulder real bad. The first three days she cared then didnt ask for a week. And then for a while, while we were on good terms I would ask whats wrong and she would just be very broad and not let me help. When I got mad and said most of this it was about a week ago. Now she kinda acts like nothing happened. So I know I should find new friends outside of school but what should I do? Do I continue being her friend through texting and school and just not get mad? Do I completely forget about her? Any help and instructions would be great. Thanks, sorry its long, it has to be haha. moreResolved Question: What to do please answer, need help?
Ok me and this girl have been friends for about 3 years and became closer this year. She got dumped twice and I always consoled her and helped her. Well now she recently started with another kid and I was jealous and just plain mad. I always sorta liked her but was happy being just friends. I got mad because she never hangs out with me. When I told her she said she is always really busy and that I should either accept that that is who she is or not be friends. I kinda believe she is busy but then she goes to a play one night then to the mall the next I can't fully believe her word. She says she can only be my friend in school and text all the time. Well in school she only sits next to me at lunch cuz her friend (girl) is next to me and says I'm a plus when she does sit there. Then if any other friends show up I become invisible and she told me to tell her so she can balance out. Outside of school she rarely texts me first. It's every few days she would since now I don't text her first anymore. It's like she never shows I'm her friend. She chose a different lab partner for chem, she never tries to stay after to do tutoring the same day as me. She says I treated her terrible cuz I got mad that she couldnt hang and made her feel guilty for something she says she has no control over and I affected her moods too much. But then she would always say why am I (me) not mad at her and why am I being so nice to her when I should be mad. And I always helped her whenever she needed it (through texting obviously haha). I would compliment her, help her on stuff and always be very nice. Then when I needed it she wasn't there. I injured my shoulder real bad. The first three days she cared then didnt ask for a week. And then for a while, while we were on good terms I would ask whats wrong and she would just be very broad and not let me help. When I got mad and said most of this it was about a week ago. Now she kinda acts like nothing happened. So I know I should find new friends outside of school but what should I do? Do I continue being her friend through texting and school and just not get mad? Do I completely forget about her? Any help and instructions would be great. Thanks, sorry its long, it has to be haha. moreResolved Question: What would you do? Please answer.?
Ok me and this girl have been friends for about 3 years and became closer this year. She got dumped twice and I always consoled her and helped her. Well now she recently started with another kid and I was jealous and just plain mad. I always sorta liked her but was happy being just friends. I got mad because she never hangs out with me. When I told her she said she is always really busy and that I should either accept that that is who she is or not be friends. I kinda believe she is busy but then she goes to a play one night then to the mall the next I can't fully believe her word. She says she can only be my friend in school and text all the time. Well in school she only sits next to me at lunch cuz her friend (girl) is next to me and says I'm a plus when she does sit there. Then if any other friends show up I become invisible and she told me to tell her so she can balance out. Outside of school she rarely texts me first. It's every few days she would since now I don't text her first anymore. It's like she never shows I'm her friend. She chose a different lab partner for chem, she never tries to stay after to do tutoring the same day as me. She says I treated her terrible cuz I got mad that she couldnt hang and made her feel guilty for something she says she has no control over and I affected her moods too much. But then she would always say why am I (me) not mad at her and why am I being so nice to her when I should be mad. And I always helped her whenever she needed it (through texting obviously haha). I would compliment her, help her on stuff and always be very nice. Then when I needed it she wasn't there. I injured my shoulder real bad. The first three days she cared then didnt ask for a week. And then for a while, while we were on good terms I would ask whats wrong and she would just be very broad and not let me help. When I got mad and said most of this it was about a week ago. Now she kinda acts like nothing happened. So I know I should find new friends outside of school but what should I do? Do I continue being her friend through texting and school and just not get mad? Do I completely forget about her? Any help and instructions would be great. Thanks, sorry its long, it has to be haha. moreResolved Question: How can I forgive a cheating wife again?
(Long Question) About a little over a month ago I asked a question on this site about my unfaithful spouse who cheated on me with a college student multiple times unprotected that she worked in the airport with. She is 31 he is 20. I found out she was cheating when I found a naughty card from him in her purse on Christmas night. She would admit to how far they went a week later and said she was sorry and regretted that she did it and that is was a bad mistake. I fully admit I was not there for her enough emotionally as a husband or even as a father of our 2 very young children ages 2 and 3 and know this was her last cry for attention after multiple attempts to work it out with me. She told me she that she had felt that I did not love her and that she moved on without me when she did it. We have decided to start over and rebuild our marriage and it has been amazing the progress we have made in such a short amount of time. I still feel a lot of pain and have a lot of trust issues with her but to come as far as we have in a short amount of time and to both feel the love for each other as when we first got married is amazing. I always used to believe once a cheater always a cheater but now I realize that it may not always be the case. Anybody who knows her and had grown up with her would tell you that this would be the last thing especially for her to do. There were a lot of other issues compounding in our lives besides our troubled relationship and it basically broke her down to where she did commit the adultery. This is one of the major reason I stayed to work this out with her along with taking care of the kids. Today I should not have but I was looking through her email record. She told me during the time I first confronted her that she had sent him an email breaking off the outside of work contact and the sexual relationship and that they would only be work friends. I found this letter in her sent history today and it hit me like a ton of bricks. she wrote to him back then that she was in love with him even if she knew he did not feel the same way. She wrote even though she did not want to end it that they could not have sex anymore because he was not fully committed to her as he had an girlfriend and maybe some other partners. She admitted to him that she never believed in non emotional sex with anyone as I was her first but that she enjoyed being with him in that manner and would always have an attachment to him. She also left it open that if he changed and fully committed to her she would chose him over me. She emphasized to him she had to remain friend to him because it would crush her if they did not. The bottom line is that although she cared for me she cared for him more and felt as if she was settling for me because I offered long term commitment. As the story goes he showed his true colors and basically abandoned her. She now knows what she always deep down knew and admitted to me she probably needed a slap in the face by reality to rejoin reality. I am still disturbed that although he rarely comes around to her store nowadays he still texts her on almost a frequent basis. She has let me know what some of the texts are and they are mostly harmless stupid texts. But it still bothers me that she still responds to most of them. What am I to think I know she wrote the email to him after I confronted her and that basically I caught her and she was still emotionally attached to him. I know she still has a slight connection to him but now also has some resentment towards him. Things are going great now and I know that she may not have been in love with me at the time of the email that she is in love with me now. Do I forget the email as emotional carryover as I know how she felt when she wrote it? But then how can I forget that basically I was nothing more than a settlement at the time she wrote it and if he was not such a uncaring piece of slime that she would have chosen him over me? moreResolved Question: Why do Some People Choose to Remain Virgins Till Marriage?
.....first of all, i want to say that i see absolutely nothing wrong with remaining a virgin till marriage....each person has every right to make their own decisions regarding their body. However, what i am asking is....What is the real motive/reason behind making such a decision. Is it because you/they think that remaining a virgin guarantees a happy and successful marriage? I know someone who chose to remain a virgin till marriage (she was 32 when she got married)...and her husband ended up treating her like crap. Because she doesn't believe in divorce, she has remained in that miserable relationship for 25yrs. I should also add that she's a christian....and her husband "claims" to be a christian also. Imagine saving yourself for someone....and this is what you get in return. Here are some other things that i don't believe are guaranteed within the contract of marriage: 1) Some say that you don't have to worry about STD's. Really? I'm quite aware that husbands and wives cheat on each other....and who's to say that they used any form of protection when they do so. So the faithful partner is still exposed to the risk of contracting STD's. 2)Some say that remaining a virgin till marriage somehow guarantees that your husband or wife won't just get up and leave. So why are divorce rates so high? And even if they choose not to get divorced, living in a constant state of misery for the rest of their lives could be the only other option. Me personally, i am beginning to wonder if i should wait till marriage to lose mine (i'm 23)....or just give it to someone that i really care about and that i'm in a long-term relationship with. I don't mean having sex with a partner just for the sake of having it......but allowing the relationship to blossom in that respect. Personally, i don't think that remaining a virgin till marriage guarantees that the marriage will last, or that it will be happy and successful. So i'm not sure that i see the real purpose of doing so. What do you think is the real purpose of waiting till marriage to have sex? Please don't be offended by this if you are someone who is waiting for marriage(....I am in the same position as you right now). Hopefully, i can get some insightful answers that would help to convince me to remain a virgin. I'm not asking for others to make that decision for me. ....i just want to make an "informed" decision......seeing the situation from different perspectives and them making my own decision. "Tell Me About It..."........to your last comment, no i don't think that. But, at least, she might have had the opportunity to experience something wonderful before she entered this life of misery. moreResolved Question: Please please help me. Very distressed. Mother manipulating me and making life worthless?
Please help me im so stressed. I'm the only adult kid of a mentally ill mother. I am 33.I have a long term partner (8 yrs) whom i live with. We are 2 hours drive from her. Shes insanely jealous of my partner. She doesnt like him and feels i should move home and 'mind her' and live nearby. But i couldnt, coz she would control and interfere in every aspect of my life.She is not socialised and knows no boundaries with anything. She doesnt see anything wrong with seriously upsetting anyone saying insulting things to them. She fights with everyone and thinks ill of everyone. I had to move 10 years ago as she was torturing me in my work, it was near her and she would ring and drop by when she wanted.. I love her very much but her behaviour is torture. My father stays with her every night and does whatever needs to be done for her. She abuses him and speaks ill of him no end, yet he just says 'she cannot help it'. This infuriates me. I understand he just wants a quiet life but he nver goes against her and expects me to bend to her too to make his life easier and coz he feels sorry for mother. Shes plenty spending money and all her bills are taken care of. She has day care to attend. Shes under care of psychiratic services, shes on medication. I spend all my holidays from work wiht her includign xmas without my partner. I ring her 3 times per day. My partner can never visit in comfort coz she'll put on a show for him, crying and saying how loney and depressed she is. How awful her life is. How good the neigbours kids are to them, 'living near them'. She does this EVERYTIME hes coming with me to visit and thats not regularly. For myself i try to avoid bringing him coz its so unpleasant. She verbally abuses my dad infront of us and will do anything to cause embaressment. She went so far as to go up to our neighbours one sunday lunch in a restaurant and start crying to them coz my parnter was with me. I was mortofied. She will try anythign for attention. This weekend i offered to bring her to see her ill sister on a 4 hour train journey. I had it all arrnaged for Saturday, return Sunday. This way she didnt ahve to travel by train alone, i'd be with her. Last minute she kicked up a stink and said she wouldnt travel by train, she demadned my partner come collect her and DRIVE her the four hours as the train is to 'cold'. I refused but was so upset it ruined my weekend and caused a fight with my partner & me to have bad panic attacks and have to take xanax to calm down. I felt so torn. My dad says theres no pressure on me ,but yet wants me to come down whatever weekends she wants in order to 'pacify' her. I already do too much and its effecting my relationship with my partner. My dad is the real problem, he is sublte in the pressure, and i dotn want to lose both parents. He just wants her needs to be met no matter how crazy. Yet, he leaves her house at 10am daily and returns at 8pm at night. Please please help me. He'll ring me wanting me to visit her this weekend. Shes already playing 'sick' to get attention and he falls for it. IF DAD WASNT AROUND I WOULD HAVE NO PROBLEM STANDIGN UP TO HER AND REPORTING HER MORE TO THE PSYCHRIATIC SERVICES FOR HER BEHAVIOUR, BUT HE IS HER ENABLER AND SENDS ME SUBTLE MESSAGES THAT IF I STAND UP FOR MYSELF HE WONT BE SUPPORTING ME. moreResolved Question: Please help me. IN agony with manipulative elderly mother, sometimes i want to crack up?
Please help me im so stressed. I'm the only adult kid of a mentally ill mother. I am 33.I have a long term partner (8 yrs) whom i live with. We are 2 hours drive from her. Shes insanely jealous of my partner. She doesnt like him and feels i should move home and 'mind her' and live nearby. But i couldnt, coz she would control and interfere in every aspect of my life.She is not socialised and knows no boundaries with anything. She doesnt see anything wrong with seriously upsetting anyone saying insulting things to them. She fights with everyone and thinks ill of everyone. I had to move 10 years ago as she was torturing me in my work, it was near her and she would ring and drop by when she wanted.. I love her very much but her behaviour is torture. My father stays with her every night and does whatever needs to be done for her. She abuses him and speaks ill of him no end, yet he just says 'she cannot help it'. This infuriates me. I understand he just wants a quiet life but he nver goes against her and expects me to bend to her too to make his life easier and coz he feels sorry for mother. Shes plenty spending money and all her bills are taken care of. She has day care to attend. Shes under care of psychiratic services, shes on medication. I spend all my holidays from work wiht her includign xmas without my partner. I ring her 3 times per day. My partner can never visit in comfort coz she'll put on a show for him, crying and saying how loney and depressed she is. How awful her life is. How good the neigbours kids are to them, 'living near them'. She does this EVERYTIME hes coming with me to visit and thats not regularly. For myself i try to avoid bringing him coz its so unpleasant. She verbally abuses my dad infront of us and will do anything to cause embaressment. She went so far as to go up to our neighbours one sunday lunch in a restaurant and start crying to them coz my parnter was with me. I was mortofied. She will try anythign for attention. This weekend i offered to bring her to see her ill sister on a 4 hour train journey. I had it all arrnaged for Saturday, return Sunday. This way she didnt ahve to travel by train alone, i'd be with her. Last minute she kicked up a stink and said she wouldnt travel by train, she demadned my partner come collect her and DRIVE her the four hours as the train is to 'cold'. I refused but was so upset it ruined my weekend and caused a fight with my partner & me to have bad panic attacks and have to take xanax to calm down. I felt so torn. My dad says theres no pressure on me ,but yet wants me to come down whatever weekends she wants in order to 'pacify' her. I already do too much and its effecting my relationship with my partner. My dad is the real problem, he is sublte in the pressure, and i dotn want to lose both parents. He just wants her needs to be met no matter how crazy. Yet, he leaves her house at 10am daily and returns at 8pm at night. Please please help me. He'll ring me wanting me to visit her this weekend. Shes already playing 'sick' to get attention and he falls for it. moreResolved Question: Help. Mother out of control. Dad wont support my decision to set boundaries.?
Please help me im so stressed. I'm the only adult kid of a mentally ill mother. I am 33.I have a long term partner (8 yrs) whom i live with. We are 2 hours drive from her. Shes insanely jealous of my partner. She doesnt like him and feels i should move home and 'mind her' and live nearby. But i couldnt, coz she would control and interfere in every aspect of my life.She is not socialised and knows no boundaries with anything. She fights with everyone and thinks ill of everyone. I had to move 10 years ago as she was torturing me in my work, it was near her and she would ring and drop by when she waned.. I love her very much but her behaviour is torture. My father stays with her every night and does whatever needs to be done for her. She abuses him and speaks ill of him no end, yet he just says 'she cannot help it'. This infuriates me. I understand he just wants a quiet life but he nver goes against her and expects me to bend to her too to make his life easier and coz he feels sorry for mother. Shes plenty spending money and all her bills are taken care of. She has day care to attend. Shes under care of psychiratic services. I spend all my holidays from work wiht her includign xmas without my partner. I ring her 3 times per day. My partner can never visit in comfort coz she'll put on a show for him, crying and saying how loney and depressed she is. How awful her life is. How good the neigbours kids are to them, 'living near them'. She does this EVERYTIME hes coming with me to visit and thats not regularly. For myself i try to avoid it coz its so unpleasant. She then verbally abuses my dad infront of us and will do anything to cause embaressment. She went so far as to go up to our neighbours one sunday lunch in a restaurant and start crying to them coz my parnter was with me. I was mortofied. She will try anythign for attention. This weekend i offered to bring her to see her ill sister on a 4 hour train journey. I had it all arrnaged for Saturday, return Sunday. This way she didnt ahve to travel by train alone, i'd be with her. Last minute she kicked up a stink and said she wouldnt travel by train, she demadned my partner come collect her and DRIVE her the four hours as the train is to 'cold'. I refused but was so upset it ruined my weekend and caused a fight with my partner. I'm afraid dad doesnt agree wtih me setting boundaries with her, he says they are too harsh. THsi cripples me with guilt. Please help. moreResolved Question: I want to become a foster parent, I have a few questions for current or former foster children?
My partner and I are considering becoming foster parents and want a little more info from current and former foster children. Any information from current or former foster parents, or social workers would also be helpful. We want to help children by providing a stable home, love, support, and a connection for life. We are looking at the ages 11-17, either male or female, and up to 2 of the same gender. We are looking at long term foster care. Here are a few of my many questions, any additional information or experiences would be very helpful 1) What is your ideal foster parent like? 2) What are traits of a poor foster parent? 3) Foster parent rules you liked & didn't like? 4) Would you rather be the only child in the house or 1 of 2 foster children? 5) Clothes - you pick out when you arrive or already there? 6) Would you rather stay in a group home, or be placed at a home? 7) Do you have any choice in going to the foster parents home or not? 8) What's the best & worst way you met your new foster parents? 9) Do/did you want to contact birth parents? 10) Would having 2 female foster parents be an issue? 11) Were you motivated to go to college by foster parents? 12) Is/was you college paid for by State/Fed? 13) At the age of 18, did the foster parents kick you out or were you welcome in their home? 14) Did you see any of the money from the State? 15) Would you rather stay at the same school/city/area or be moved to a long term foster home? 16) How did foster parents ask you about you history &/or special needs? ie abuse(physical, mental, sexual), trauma, etc.. 17) How soon did you feel comfortable opening up to foster parents about your history? What helped you open up? 18) How did you vent? moreResolved Question: I need some help!!! for teen and toddler?
I am a young 18 year old mum to a 15 month old little boy. I live off my benefits (im in college but do not qualify for ema) anyway i havnt got any christmas things yet and its getting me down - i know i should have started earlier but a lot has been hapening later like splitting up with my long term partner, becoming homeless ect Anyway ive got my dad and my little sister coming up for christmas and i need to buy things for both my little boy and my little sister. My little sister (13 christmas day so birthday aswell!!) is well into her football (manchester united) and her consoles (psp,ps3,xbox 360) but i dont have all the money in the world and im on a very tight budget. My sister is in care so i want to make this the best xmas shes ever had. My little boy loves in the night garden and cleaning equipment (odd child!) I need some sites or places where i can purchase some good thigs for them and for a decent price? The cheapest ive seen the new psp go! going for is for £200 but i need to get them some good things. Any help would be very helpful :) moreLong Term Care Partners Search Results
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